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filter versus reveal

Published 10 months ago • 1 min read

This is a story of two clients I saw back-to-back on the same day.

One was desperately wanting to control how much emotion they show to others, how to dial back their level of transparency, and create more firm boundaries about who gets access to their vulnerability, when, and how much.

The other was reaching for a better way to connect with their team, to reveal more of the passion and energy they were feeling, and lead with more heart to get people fired up and sharing in their excitement.

These two people were not at opposite ends of the spectrum, trying to reach some universally “good” or “right” center. (I don’t believe that even exists!)

In fact, they both seemed to be at around the same spot that day. But, they each felt they were holding something back from showing up the way they knew they wanted to be showing up.

They knew what their Best Self would do if they could release whatever was holding them back.

When we went in,

  • One client found a part with a deep need to please people and another part that hated that one for allowing them to be walked on.
  • One client found an inner child who was so ashamed of being picked on and another part that had decided never to let people get close enough to hurt them again.
  • Even on the way in to find those parts, there was a lot of work to get some anxiety, or fatigue, or ‘I already know what this is, and we don’t need to go there’ to step back and give us the space for in-sight.
  • But they each stuck with it! They found the parts, heard them out, and cared for them the way they wanted to be cared for.

With that underlying healing, the resistance was released, and they felt more free to show up more aligned with their Best Selves.

For one, that meant they could finally reveal more. And for the other, they could finally reveal less.

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Thomas Knoll​
Founder, YourSecondCall.com​

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Self Healing Leadership

by Thomas Knoll

I guide leaders facing big transitions into a space where they can face their fears and transform their teams. The Self Healing Leadership newsletter gives you the ability to see, hear, and feel what it is like to go inside and do this transformative work.

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